Comfort and Safety -♥- Juicy Heart

Creating a sense of Safety for all that is and developing and experiencing a sense of Comfort.

Becoming a better LOVER.

After the event at the Awaken Studio yesterday I was struck by how often men would comment on how safe the exploration felt. From that sense of safety these men seemed to derive a sense of comfort in the experience. This in-turn seemed to release a sense of pleasure into the room.

My question to myself was, “How did that happen?”

Building Safety

1. Breathing 

2. Eye-contact

3. Slowing the process down

4. Being informed of what will happen and how

5. Simple, solid and “grounded” touch

6. Smiling

All these above and being able to hold the part of one’s intention where one can access a sense of graciousness and kindness. This graciousness and kindness concentrated on oneself, the other and the group. This is when the sense of comfort comes into play and the sense of safety within is amplified and then begins to move through the individual, the couple or the group.

When we are breathing and smiling and connecting to the other and our highest powers are being utilized. One might find that one can be a “better” LOVER.

NOT, to say that we are not wonderful LOVERS to begin with and these elements of concentration and physical release in the face for fears, anxiety, critical self thought, self doubt and strong emotion can bring us into a place where we can connect and find ourselves in that Exquisite and Ecstatic state where we can feel everything that we might be and we are joined in giving and receiving in a what can be described as a Sacred Union.

I live my life in widening circles

that reach out across the world.

I may not complete this last one

but I give myself to it.

I circle around God, around the primordial tower.

I’ve been circling for thousands of years

and I still don’t know:

am I a falcon,

a storm,

or a great song?

~ Ranier Maria Rilke ~

The next Men 4 Men Touch Exchange events will take place on Sunday April 7 and Sunday April 21. For more information visit the website at:

Phillip Coupal – Men 4 Men Touch Exchange Events

Awaken Studio – The Gathering http://www.phillipcoupal.ca

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